For the moment your inner and outer lives stop agreeing.
The Relational is a one-to-one practice for founders, leaders, parents and makers whose life no longer fits the person they've been. Over twelve weeks we get to know that place through conversation, the body and the voice, until you can choose how you stand in it.
Everything we experience is a conversation: with other people, and with our bodies, our assumptions, our histories, the space we move through and the stories we carry. We are always in relation and always in exchange. The question is whether we're paying attention.
The Relational is how I work with people one to one. It sits where self-narrative, identity and embodiment meet: the place where what you know meets who you actually are.
It brings deliberate attention to the conversations you're having with the main features of your life: your relationships, money, language, body, conscience, environment and essence.
When those conversations collide, life gets loud. This work helps you hear what's actually being said and gives you back your say in how you take part.
I'm a poet as well as a facilitator, and both show up in the room.
There is no promise in a bookfrom The Conversation
or a god on a billboard,
but only the conversation
we are always in.
I draw on philosophy, embodiment practices, mythology, literature and poetry, working across three dimensions:
What surfaces when we stop performing certainty and say the thing that needs saying. We look at the quality of exchange between you and everything you're in relation with, including the language you use for it.
Working with embodiment, presence and the body's intelligence. The mind thinks it knows, but the body knows it knows. We find the questions you've stopped asking and the places you keep resisting.
Moving from reaction to authorship. Re-storying what no longer serves you, stripping back to what is essential and finding a practice that holds it. Authenticity as reduction.
The work rests on four commitments:
Founders, leaders, parents and creative people at the point where the life they built and the person they're becoming have stopped agreeing. Usually something has worked for a long time and has quietly stopped working. I know that place well, because I'm living my own version of it.
You might be carrying a question you have stopped asking. You might be performing a version of yourself that used to fit but no longer does. You might simply want to have the conversation you have been avoiding.
You don't need another strategy, framework or productivity hack. You need somewhere to stay with it long enough to hear what it's asking of you.
"As my mentor, Alex listened to me with a lot of intention and guided me in my choices. I really appreciated working with him and recommend other mentees to consider his insights as well, especially regarding building audience trust and relationships."
Cristian Frunze Founder, Ken.so
"His posts here speak wonderfully to his holistic approach to business and life, and I am honoured (and a better person) to be his friend and to be working with him. Thank you, Alex!"
Gord Kagel Founder & CEO, Trovela
The Relational is a three-month engagement. We meet weekly online for 60-75 minutes to build a relational practice together over 12 weeks.
There is no curriculum. Each journey is shaped by the conversation itself. The aim is self-sustainability, so that you leave able to hold your own conversations with more honesty, presence and clarity. Investment is shared on a first call.
The Relational is also a growing body of written work. I am currently exploring these ideas in an upcoming book, to be released in 2027. The writing draws on the same well as the practice: philosophy, poetry, embodiment, lived experience, and extends the conversation beyond the one-to-one setting.
Much of The Relational lives in writing: essays, poetry and longform pieces that sit alongside the practice. My debut poetry collection, The Wild Seam, is forthcoming. If you want to understand how I think before we talk, start here.
Let's begin the conversation you should be in.
A short first call to see whether this is the right work for you.
